Arthur Crabtree wrote:For me, that incident of the England players giving James Taylor a child's bat is the same sort of bullying by banter that the perpetrators kid themselves is fun, but is actually pretty hurtful. And it's hard for the subject to disapprove without it looking like they are the problem. People shouldn't even think this is ok at school. The victim laughs along and normalises the bullying.
Indeed. Well put.
I guess that's why Ballance's response seems so dimwitted. If you were indeed Rafiq's close friend, then surely a bit of empathy about how your choice of language might be of acute offence would not be misplaced, and being someone's friend does not excuse such language as acceptable. I cant think of a single non-white, non-straight, non-cisgender people I know that would accept in the slightest me selecting particular insult directed at them and them thinking that was ok because we were friends. In fact, I would expect that all of them would be more offended with me than anyone else.
But that sense of naivety is hard to accept or understand. Ballance's response is very much in line with your explanation - we were mates, if he has a problem with being called a P word, then its his problem, and not me.